In Laura Kipnis's essay titled "Against Love" she attempts to prove that love is nothing but a matter of subjugation. She states many common cliches about married life that may appeal to many readers as true. Some examples of these cliches are; that marriage will lose its intimacy after a certain amount of time, that married couples scrutinize each other more than in any other environment, and that couples must change their individuality or character in order to maintain a loving relationship. She is very intelligent to bring forward these situations and facts about divorce rates. She also acknowledges that there are benefits to being in love. However, she fails to capture the true essence of love.
No one can write about what love is truly like in a universal sense. It can be attributed to certain situations, and through those situations it may be recognized. Although a marriage can be hard at times (like all things can) that does not mean that it is not worth the effort. Creating a successful relationship is a difficult task that requires much hard work and adjusting as Kipnis states. However, when a seemingly impossible goal is achieved after lots of hard work, it is all the more glorious.
Love will always be a worthwhile goal to work towards even if it may require an individual to change oneself, be open to scrutiny, and endure emotional hardships. Without love or or when love is lost a human begins to question if life has a point. If someone is not experiencing any love whether it be from a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, parent, or family member they will feel unloved, which may be the most terrible emotion in existence. True love may be very hard to achieve, but there is not goal that is more rewarding.
One individual like Kipnis cannot judge the love between billions of people. It is the foundation on which everything is built. No matter what Kipnis says I am for love because no one can live without it.
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